Are you worrying? 2 Step Process to Stop

Have you been worrying 2 Steps To Stop Worrying

Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”  Corrie Ten Boom

That statement above really touched me because I have found myself participating in worrying and it causing me to not work on things in my life that I can improve or resolve. I mean after all the worrying about a situation that I can not do anything about, I am too tired to focus on working on situations that I can do something about.  I am too tired to focus on enjoying life.

Have you ever been going through a situation and it seemed that all you could do was worry? I mean just worrying, worrying, worrying nonstop.  Did it really help your situation? I can answer that quickly. No.  I can say that I have found myself falling into the pit of worrying about some things that occurred in my life.  It seemed so easy to do. I mean like it came natural but it actually did not solve or make the situation any better.  Worrying about one situation in your life can alter all areas of your life.   Due to all the energy that is required to participate in worrying, it can stunt your progress towards moving forward in situations that you can do something about.  It takes away strength that you will need to continue on. It may even take away your ability to enjoy fun moments in life.


   2 step process to stop worrying

I encourage you to practice on not giving power to worrying or allowing it to take strength from you.  Trust me, I am not saying that this is going to be easy but it will be profitable for your life.  Here is a 2 step process (yes, just 2 step) that can help eliminate worrying from the equation of your situation.

1. Stop and take a look at the situation and see if there is anything that you can do to resolve it.

2.  a. If you can resolve it, make a list of steps to succeed with resolving it and follow through  on them.

b.  If you can not resolve it, make peace with that (We are humans who sometimes do not have any control on certain situations that occur in our lives but we can control how we react to them).   As my husband always say, “If it is meant to be, it will be.”  God has been really helping me with this.


You will find in life that there will be times when you can do 2. a. but there will also come times when you will have to do 2. b.  I am sure many of you reading this already participates in this 2 step process but difficulty may come when it is time to choose 2. b.

If a situation arise and you need to do 2. b. but you choose to worry instead, you will take strength that is needed for you to do 2. a. for situations in your life that you can resolve.

If you are used to worrying, 2. b. may be difficult at first because you will have to retrain your mind.  That is Ok.  You will have to be intentional.  The more you do it, the easier it will get.   I have been there and I am still working on it.  I sometimes find myself falling back into the trap of worrying.  I have to stop and realize how it is so important to not take the strength and energy that I will need to resolve situations in my life that I can control by worrying about situations that I can not control. I have to remind myself what I am giving up if I choose to worry.  I have to remind myself that I have a choice.  I choose to not let worrying control me.


Again, I am a work in progress.  Let’s encourage and motivate each other. What are some ways you use to stop from worrying?  I would love feedback.

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29 thoughts on “Are you worrying? 2 Step Process to Stop

  1. Worrying is definitely totally unproductive. someone once said that worrying is really a waste of time because 50 % of what we worry about we have not control over, 10% is pass experiences that we cannot change 20% are outcomes we fear that never actually happen 10% are health issues that we can adjust and only 10% are real problems. For me I try to fill the slot with products activities, worrying slows me down in some areas but it doesn’t really shut me down. I also use a lot of self talk and I label my emotions and stay aware of my mental processes and interrupt them a much as possible with positive thoughts

    1. Hey Lewin,
      Thanks so much for commenting with positive ways to stop worrying. I always appreciate your input. I am also a fan of self talk and being aware of my emotions. I especially love how you stated about staying aware of your mental processes and interrupting them with positive thoughts as much as possible. By utilizing the methods you mentioned above, we would be exercising the factor of choice and also the understanding that we can control our thoughts and we will not be giving power to worrying. Thanks again for sharing these tips 🙂

  2. True and helpful words well simplified. reminds me of the Serenity Prayer. I like to remind my clients that a step toward resolution may be getting more information.

    1. Thanks so much for commenting with kind words and another step towards resolution, Joanne. Yes, I believe that sometimes we over complicate things and by simplifying it seems more attainable. Thanks again 🙂

  3. This is great. It is so difficult when something grabs our heart so tight and won’t let go. Worry is not easy to shake. Thank you for your post. I am going to repost it on my blog. Thanks.

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by with kind words and sharing a positive way to handle situations in life (The Serenity Prayer). God bless you 🙂

  4. my friend always tells me, in his words, “you can worry for the world”. I’m seriously trying to put a stop to that.. I do so mainly by applying God’s word to every situation or thing I’m worried about. Once I do that, I become calm and allow him to lay out solutions to each situation.. Always works!

    1. Thanks so much for commenting with what has been working for you. I really appreciate it. God is good and I have been finding help in him also, especially with worrying. I was once the queen of worrying.

  5. Thanks so much for your insights, JcCee. I read somewhere in recent months that worry is not the same as prayer. It’s a helpful reminder that worry just seems to build on itself and get bigger. Prayer, on the other hand, allows us to give our concerns over into God’s care and then go about focusing on those things over which we have control. All that’s required for prayer to work is belief and faith in God. It’s a powerful act.

    1. You’re very welcome, Mary Adrienne! Yes, I am in totally agreement with you about prayer. It’s very powerful. We have to be willing to let God take care of it. God can do what we can’t. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I really appreciate it. God bless you.

  6. Great tips. My mom and grandma are constant worriers.. If they have nothing to worry about they find something. I’m really trying to get them to stop but when you’ve done it your whole life it’s tough to stop.

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by. I totally agree that it can be tough. It will take time. Kudos to you for not giving up on them. 🙂

  7. JcCee! This spoke volumes to me, and the sentence that stood out is “Due to all the energy that is required to participate in worrying, it can stunt your progress towards moving forward…” It happens to me a lot and unfortunately, sometimes it can spiral out of control. I have to know how to control the worry. I never worried a lot before, it just happened and the wierd thing is that I was conscious about this transition!

    1. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I am so glad that you found this helpful. I know what you mean about it can spiral out control. I sometimes see it trying to creep upon me and I have to shut it down quickly. Shut down its energy supply. It is great that you are able to acknowledge when worrying happens so you can better control it or the situation. I am wishing you progress on controlling worry 🙂

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