Hey loves, have you been enjoying the first week of the new year? I have been working on tasks to help me with some goals that I started working on the end of the last year. Last year, I attended a training in self care and it was mentioned how important it is to create a list of self care activities to have at any given time. As I was looking back on last year, I realized that I participated in self care activities a lot.
I picked up a pretty basket from Target and was trying to figure out what to do with it and decided to use it to store my goodies I use for self care and created a self care kit. I can imagine self care kits have been around a long time and I find them to be great tools as you are been proactive in maintaining your health.
Say, you had a long day at work and you are exhausted but you get home and continue working because you have duties to do at home and crashed. You wake up the next morning to do it again. You continue to do this for weeks or months at a time. You find yourself tired all the time and sometimes not wanting to do the tasks that you set for yourself.
Your body and mind has not had time to relax and break from everyday wear and tear. This is when self care plays a major role in our lives. When you take time out to care for yourself, you are giving your body and mind a rest and a moment to relax. A moment to calm down from all of the hustle and bustle. After that rest and relaxation, you feel good overall, you feel rejuvenated, you feel some peace, etc.
I know after I give myself some self care I am able to develop solutions to certain things better. Every one self care kit may be different but the goal is the same. I picked objects that I like and that will help me relax.
I started Adult coloring last year. It is such as relaxing and peaceful time for me and it allows me to be creative and to decide how I want my picture to be. I am in full control and I can color out of the line if I want to. Ok, that is a great feeling sometimes especially when life can seem the opposite.
How do I even began about journaling? I love love it. I write down thoughts, ideas, happy moments, sad moments, dreams, goals, etc. It takes a lot to get me upset but when I do some of the things that come to my mind do not need to be said out loud but I can write them down to get them out. After that, I am able to focus on why those words or thoughts were my reaction, think about the situation, and respond or react appropriately. As I mentioned in a post a while back, the pen can write what you can not say.
I love this mug, “Don’t Kill My Vibe.” When I saw it in the store, I was like I won’t let you lol. I don’t know what I was referring to exactly, maybe the infamous “negative self talk” or people who try to kill your dreams. I think it will be a great reminder though during my coffee and tea for self care moments.
Coffee & Tea
I just love sitting in my favorite chair and sipping on some coffee or tea depending on which one I am in mood for.
Essential oils, candle, & favorite lotion
Aromatherapy is the business. It makes for a great spa day/night. I love scented candles & essential oil diffusers. Their scents make the atmosphere of the room so relaxing and smell of essential oils may help relieve stress. I use them for the morning and evening. I love the zone I get in when I use them in the morning when I am writing down my grateful moments. I also love the zone they put me in when I use them in the evening with a long bath. I light my candle, have some relaxing music playing, some epsom salts (not pictured), and essential oils in my bath and just relax.
I use my phone or iPad (not pictured). Music is therapeutic to me because some songs can describe how I am feeling and also how I want to feel.
Sometimes, the objects in my kit may change but for the most part, these are what I use now.
Do you have a self care kit?
As I look over at this beautiful decor sign “hope” while I get ready in the morning, it triggers the thoughts of thinking positive. I picked the “HOPE” sign up at Marshalls a few months ago and decided the best place to put it was in the bathroom. You may wonder why? Well, because that is the first place I visit in the morning. As I am looking in the mirror getting ready I can’t help but to see it. Life, or should I say situations in life, has a way of taking our ability to have hope away. It may not be all the time but sometimes things or events can happened and we lose hope. I don’t want to be in the state of mind thinking that there is no reason to have hope.
Because despite it all, having hope can help through everyday life struggles. Why? Remember the situation or event that you thought was going to be the worst and it seemed like you couldn’t see how you were going to make it through, look back on it and see how you made it through it. It may not have been how you want it to but you got through it.
I know the desired outcome that we want for certain situations do not manifest but that does not mean that outcome will be for situations to come. I don’t want a couple situations to let me give up hope because living in a hopeless state is unhealthy and it causes me to miss the time or appreciate the time when I did or will get the desired outcome.
Throughout life, we learn new ways to cope and deal with situations and events. It is like we have a maintenance kit composed of tools we have acquired along this journey of life to deal with different moments attached to us that we just have to remember that it is there and use it. Sometimes, we don’t give ourselves enough credit.
So that time that was difficult and seemed hopeless and you made it through, what coping skill or helping tool did you pick up from that and added to your maintenance kit?
3 Simple Ways To Regain Focus
As I was looking through my notification, 100th post popped up. It took a minute for me to process that I have actually hit this milestone. When I began blogging, I didn’t have a clue as to actually what blogging was all about. I had heard of it but didn’t know what it really entail. All I knew is that I wanted to create a platform that would encourage others.
My husband has been very supportive. I had doubts about blogging but he was and still is my number one encourager/cheerleader along with my sister. They consistently encourage and motivate me. If I were to say that this journey has been easy, I would be lying but it has been rewarding. It has cause me to grow as a person in all areas of my life. I have met some wonderful people through blogging and for that I am grateful.
With all that being said, sometimes you can lose focus when working on accomplishing goals. Life happens or you are bombarded with additional duties in life. Since I blog about inspiring, motivation, and encouragement, I have been learning how to stay in check with my inner self. In a perfect world, focus would be on point all the time but this is not a perfect world.
Lately, I recognized that I had lost focus. I don’t know exactly the moment it happened but it did. I found myself in a blank zone standing still without direction. I didn’t know what to do next. I didn’t know what to write next. I just didn’t know.
So, I had to make some steps toward getting myself back on track. I had to regain my focus. I used these 3 ways to help me regain focus.
1. Turn off the noise.
2. Feed my mind the nutrients that it needs.
3. Identify my Why.
I had to find a time to just turn off the noise of life and give myself space to clear my mind so I can feed it what it was lacking. I began to set aside time for only step 2. I realized that the most important thing that I was running low on was positive, inspiring, & uplifting words in my mind. I started thinking about the body and how we are told to feed our body nutrients, positive and uplifting words are like nutrients for the mind.
If we don’t give our mind the necessary nutrients, we are not able to function at the best level. I had to get a refill because I was near empty. Who am I kidding? I was on “E.” I went to my bible, back to blog posts that I had written, other blogs, inspiring books, & encouraging quotes/words.
As I was getting my fill up, I began to feel renewed and rejuvenated. This gave me a clear and embracing mind to identify and receive my “Why”. Why am I doing what I am doing? What am I trying to accomplish for me and my family?
After I finished the steps to regain focus, I was ready to regroup and get back on track. I also looked back at the notification of the 100th post and I got excited!!
It doesn’t matter if we lose focus as long as we can identify it, regain it, and keep it moving.
How do you regain focus?
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.-Thomas Edison
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We tend to live up to our expectations-Earl Nightingale
This is a part of Linda’s One Liner Wednesday
I love reading quotes. They can make you laugh as well as uplift you. They can help you to see the good and greatness in your own life. They can be inspiring, encouraging, empowering, and motivating. They put the focus on what you can do to make your life better or peaceful. Since participation in gratitude can help you start your day off positively or turn a bad day into a good day, I decided to share some quotes on gratitude.
I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.
If you enjoyed these quotes, you may like Gratitude Jar, Gratitude makes life fulfilling.
5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself
There are times when we carefully watch what we say to others. When we know a friend is going through a time of feeling bad. We sit there and take our sweet time trying to get the right words together to uplift a friend but we give ourselves maybe a minute if that much and speak negative words to ourselves when we are feeling bad. We find ourselves caring deeply for their feelings but what about the times that we deny ourselves the same treatment.
You may wonder what times? You know, the times when you find yourself saying negative words to yourself about what you did not finish yet, or maybe the time when you felt that you were not good enough, or even the time when you thought you could have done a task in a better way. This list can go on and on. It would be beneficial to give yourself the same treatment that you would give a friend in these type of situations.
Have you notice how we are some of the worst critics when it comes to ourselves? I mean we can really beat ourselves up with negative words. I mean, there have been times in life that if there was a boxing match going on between me and myself (the worst critic with negative words), myself will beat me with a knock out in the 1st round. Thank God for growth.
Remember the post I wrote about 6 Ways To Say No To Self Negative Talk. Negative words will keep you stuck. They do not help the situation. They just take us further into the world of negativity and breaks us down. Breaks us down into a fragile state. We began doubting other abilities that we may have. It is difficult to get anything done positive in a fragile state.
One of the best steps you can do for yourself is Be Kind To Yourself. This is not the only step in life that will yield positivity but it is right up there in the list of Big Ones. Is it always easy to be kind to yourself? Not at first if you are your worst critic, but as you participate in daily activities that are geared toward loving on yourself, it will become easy to develop kindness toward yourself. With kindness, you speak positive words into your mind. You build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down. You show compassionate to yourself.
When you be kind to yourself, you open the door to produce greatness because you began to think good about yourself. This leads to believing in yourself and achieving goals in life. This helps you allow peace into your life. I encourage you to take some time and choose your words carefully because when you talk to yourself, you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes
I have created a list of 5 Tips That Are Geared Toward Me Loving On Myself Which Lead To Me Being Kind To Myself that have been helpful to me
- Forgive yourself– No one is perfect.
- Magnify your strengths– We all have strengths and positive characteristics. Thinking about what I am good at is always empowering.
- Participate in self-care techniques-This helps reduce the impact of daily stressors and allow peace in my life. Pampering also makes me feel good about myself.
- Make some positive affirmations that you can review daily-Speak positive words into my mind help remove negative words from my though process.
- Make a list of ways to encourage yourself-By creating this list, I have a built-in cheerleader.
When I participate in these steps and love on myself, I am equipping my mind with positivity which makes it easy for me to be kind to myself. It is easy for me to say kind words to myself like I would a friend because the kindness is already there for me to tap into. If you would like to read further about self-care techniques, I shared some techniques in my post about 5 Tips To Reduce Stress. About a couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post on 5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself that you may find helpful.
I know you may have a busy schedule but I hope this post give you a moment to think about the importance of being kind to yourself.
Update: I have created a printable just for you.
How do you be kind to yourself? If you have some tips on how to be kind to yourself, I would love for you to share them.
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Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact-William James
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