5 Ways To Get Motivated When You’re Feeling Blah

Do you ever find yourself in an unmotivated state? You know what you need to do but you don’t feel the desire to do it. You feel like it’s taking forever to get to the outcome that you have picture your head. You almost find yourself losing hope that you will ever get there. The good news is that it will not last forever and is only temporary.  I want you to take a moment to stop and think about what would happen if you let those temporary moments dictate your journey.  Words that come to mind are regrets, defeated, stagnation, depression, etc.  For myself, I don’t want to give temporary moments that type of power over my journey.

I have felt like this a time or two. Wait, multiply that by at least 10 lol and I am quite sure I will feel it again in the future. Does this mean that I am giving in to the thought that I am going be unmotivated? No, well, maybe yes. Stay with me though, it means that I have acknowledged it and will be able to help myself when it happens again. You see, in life when working on goals, preparation is BIG. Are you able to prepare for everything that happens? Probably not, but that shouldn’t stop you from making preparation for what you can.

I can remember when I first started creating photos for my blog. It seems like it took forever for me to get the lighting better and I am not where I want to be but I am proud of my progress. There were so many frustrating unmotivated moments. I think about it now and can laugh but I promise you it wasn’t funny back then. What if I let those temporary moments tell me that I couldn’t do it?  I wouldn’t be able to exercise my creative side or even know that part existed anymore.

My feelings for those moments were real but not valid. The power to make them valid is within me. Your motivation can be like your driver license. As long as they are valid, you are licensed to drive but as soon as they expire you are not. It is real that you are a driver but it is not valid because of your expired license.

Until you go to the DMW and get it renewed, it cannot be use to show you are licensed to drive.  That is how I think about the unmotivated moments. They are real but I have the power to make them valid and I can choose not to.  I can choose to renew my motivation and make it valid. Of course I need help along the way.

Now let’s get to some ways I get through the unmotivated moments. Of course, you may have different ways and that is perfectly ok.  I said 5 but I added a bonus one.

  1. Get some fresh air and go for a walk
  2. Go and read a magazine, blog, book, etc that has nothing to do with what you are working on
  3.  Take a nap
  4.  Gardening
  5.  Love on myself
  6. Binge watch a show on Netflix (Don’t judge me lol)

All of these ways help me to step back, relax, and reset.   I may do one or three depending on the severity of the unmotivated moments. These cause me to step back from the frustration and give myself moments to breathe. After these moments, I am able to think about my why and regroup if needed.  My motivation is recover and I am ready to continue on.

 

What ways do you use to get out of the unmotivated moments?

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Hope In A Hopeless Place

 

hope-can-be-found-in-a-hopeless-placeAs I look over at this beautiful decor sign “hope” while I get ready in the morning, it triggers the thoughts of thinking positive.  I picked the “HOPE” sign up at Marshalls a few months ago and decided the best place to put it was in the bathroom.  You may wonder why? Well, because that is the first place I visit in the morning.  As I am looking in the mirror getting ready I can’t help but to see it.  Life, or should I say situations in life, has a way of taking our ability to have hope away.  It may not be all the time but sometimes things or events can happened and we lose hope.  I don’t want to be in the state of mind thinking that there is no reason to have hope.

Because despite it all, having hope can help through everyday life struggles. Why?  Remember the situation or event that you thought was going to be the worst and it seemed like you couldn’t see how you were going to make it through,  look back on it and see how you made it through it.  It may not have been how you want it to but you got through it.

I know the desired outcome that we want for certain situations do not manifest but that does not mean that outcome will be for situations to come.  I don’t want a couple situations to let me give up hope because living in a hopeless state is unhealthy and it causes me to miss the time or appreciate the time when I did or will get the desired outcome.

Throughout life, we learn new ways to cope and deal with situations and events.  It is like we have a maintenance kit  composed of tools we have acquired along this journey of life to deal with different moments attached to us that we just have to remember that it is there and use it.  Sometimes, we don’t give ourselves enough credit.

So that time that was difficult and seemed hopeless and you made it through, what coping skill or helping tool did you pick up from that and added to your maintenance kit?

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Word For The Year

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It is always great to start the new year off on a word that would be the focus point for your goals. It has taken me some time to come up with my word. I finally decided on “transform” towards the end of February.  At first I was caught between choosing transform or intentional. I was going back and forth about which word to choose.

Then, it hit me. To be able to participate in transforming effectively, I will have to be intentionally with my actions. These words work hand in hand. What do I want to transform? Every since I began this blog, my thinking process has change. It has cause me to think about things in a certain way. I have grown deeper in my relationship with God and I have learned to take time out and enjoy not only the big moments and things but also the little ones.

Sometimes, we find ourselves constantly moving until we miss out on things that will give us a moment to literally feel the breathing that we do. I mean we know we breathe daily but do we really take time out to realize the breath that we are blessed to take. The moments that we let slip by because we were so busy constantly moving.

My thinking process may have improve last year but I am still a work in progress. So, I want to work on transforming my thinking process more to take time out to enjoy life moments.  I want to continue to transform my health, my family life, & my business. I have to constantly work on myself because just because I know some coping skills or mechanisms to use in times of struggle doesn’t mean that I don’t get distracted sometimes with negative thoughts or situations. I do, and this is why I constantly work on myself to keep myself in check.

I also do not want to be just existing in life. I feel that in order to not exist, we must set goals and accomplished them. One goal should be to enjoy life moments.  I think we leave this out from our goal list but it just as important and it can be easily neglected or look over while we are playing our roles in life.  Even if we don’t accomplished all of our goals, we will have a roadmap to go by in life and will not just be existing.

I am looking forward to the growth that will come with my goals this year.

Have you found a word to help you focus on your goals this year?

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3 Simple Ways To Regain Focus

3 Simple Ways To Regain Focus

As I was looking through my notification, 100th post popped up.  It took a minute for me to process that I have actually hit this milestone.  When I began blogging, I didn’t have a clue as to actually what blogging was all about.  I had heard of it but didn’t know what it really entail.  All I knew is that I wanted to create a platform that would encourage others.

 My husband has been very supportive.  I had doubts about blogging but he was and still is my number one encourager/cheerleader along with my sister.  They consistently encourage and motivate me.  If I were to say that this journey has been easy, I would be lying but it has been rewarding.  It has cause me to grow as a person in all areas of my life.  I have met some wonderful people through blogging and for that I am grateful.

With all that being said, sometimes you can lose focus when working on accomplishing goals.  Life happens or you are bombarded with additional duties in life.  Since I blog about inspiring, motivation, and encouragement, I have been learning how to stay in check with my inner self.  In a perfect world, focus would be on point all the time but this is not a perfect world.

Lately, I recognized that I had lost focus.  I don’t know exactly the moment it happened but it did.  I found myself in a blank zone standing still without direction.  I didn’t know what to do next.  I didn’t know what to write next.  I just didn’t know.

So, I had to make some steps toward getting myself back on track.  I had to regain my focus.  I used these 3 ways to help me regain focus.

1.   Turn off the noise.

2.  Feed my mind the nutrients that it needs.

3.  Identify my Why.

I had to find a time to just turn off the noise of life and give myself space to clear my mind so I can feed it what it was lacking. I began to set aside time for only step 2.   I realized that the most important thing that I was running low on was positive, inspiring, & uplifting words in my mind.  I started thinking about the body and how we are told to feed our body nutrients, positive and uplifting words are like nutrients for the mind.

If we don’t give our mind the necessary nutrients, we are not able to function at the best level.  I had to get a refill because I was near empty. Who am I kidding?  I was on “E.”  I went to my bible, back to blog posts that I had written, other blogs, inspiring books, &  encouraging quotes/words.

As I was getting my fill up, I began to feel renewed and rejuvenated.  This gave me a clear and embracing mind to identify and receive my “Why”.  Why am I doing what I am doing?  What am I trying to accomplish for me and my family?

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After I finished the steps to regain focus, I was ready to regroup and get back on track.  I also looked back at the notification of the 100th post and I got excited!!

It doesn’t matter if we lose focus as long as we can identify it, regain it, and keep it moving.

How do you regain focus?

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GROWING INTO GROWTH

Progressing in life is growing into growth.  We should be constantly growing

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Growing into growth

growing into growthIt seems am going in circles to get to my path in life…..Reasons unknown or maybe just to loose the unnecessary while gaining the necessary…..
GROWING INTO GROWTH
When I’m putting a puzzle together…. I  pick up pieces…. Just to put down pieces….Am I confused or maybe it’s  just  to get the right pieces  to put the puzzle together correctly…..
GROWING INTO GROWTH
Yesterday I failed heavily…..
Today I failed lightly…..  Am I a failure or am I learning how  to succeed for tomorrow…..
GROWING INTO GROWTH

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