How I Create A Self Care Kit

Hey loves, have you been enjoying the first week of the new year?  I have been working on tasks to help me with some goals that I started working on the end of the last year.  Last year, I attended a training in self care and it was mentioned how important it is to create a list of self care activities to have at any given time.  As I was looking back on last year, I realized that I participated in self care activities a lot.

I picked up a pretty basket from Target and was trying to figure out what to do with it and decided to use it to store my goodies I use for self care and created a self care kit.  I can imagine self care kits have been around a long time and I find them to be great tools as you are been proactive in maintaining your health.

Say, you had a long day at work and you are exhausted but you get home and continue working because you have duties to do at home and crashed. You wake up the next morning to do it again. You continue to do this for weeks or months at a time.  You find yourself tired all the time and sometimes not wanting to do the tasks that you set for yourself.

Your body and mind has not had time to relax and break from everyday wear and tear.  This is when self care plays a major role in our lives.  When you take time out to care for yourself, you are giving your body and mind a rest and a moment to relax.  A moment to calm down from all of the hustle and bustle.  After that rest and relaxation, you feel good overall, you feel rejuvenated, you feel some peace, etc.

I know after I give myself some self care I am able to develop solutions to certain things better.  Every one self care kit may be different but the goal is the same. I picked objects that I like and that will help me relax.


Coloring book

I started Adult coloring last year.  It is such as relaxing and peaceful time for me and it allows me to be creative and to decide how I want my picture to be.  I am in full control and I can color out of the line if I want to. Ok, that is a great feeling sometimes especially when life can seem the opposite.


How do I even began about journaling?  I love love it.  I write down thoughts, ideas, happy moments, sad moments, dreams, goals, etc. It takes a lot to get me upset but when I do some of the things that come to my mind do not need to be said out loud but I can write them down to get them out.  After that, I am able to focus on why those words or thoughts were my reaction, think about the situation, and respond or react appropriately.  As I mentioned in a post a while back, the pen can write what you can not say.


I love this mug, “Don’t Kill My Vibe.”  When I saw it in the store, I was like I won’t let you lol. I don’t know what I was referring to exactly, maybe the infamous “negative self talk” or people who try to kill your dreams. I think it will be a great reminder though during my coffee and tea for self care moments.

Coffee & Tea

I just love sitting in my favorite chair and sipping on some coffee or tea depending on which one I am in mood for.


Essential oils, candle, & favorite lotion

Aromatherapy is the business. It makes for a great spa day/night. I love scented candles & essential oil diffusers.  Their scents make the atmosphere of the room so relaxing and smell of essential oils may help relieve stress.  I use them for the morning and evening. I love the zone I get in when I use them in the morning when I am writing down my grateful moments. I also love the zone they put me in when I use them in the evening with a long bath.  I light my candle, have some relaxing music playing, some epsom salts (not pictured), and essential oils in my bath and just relax.


I use my phone or iPad (not pictured).  Music is therapeutic to me because some songs can describe how I am feeling and also how I want to feel.

Sometimes, the objects in my kit may change but for the most part, these are what I use now.

Do you have a self care kit?

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5 Powerful Quotes on Gratitude

I love reading quotes.  They can make you laugh as well as uplift you.  They can help you to see the good and greatness in your own life.  They can be inspiring, encouraging, empowering, and motivating.  They put the focus on what you can do to make your life better or peaceful.  Since participation  in gratitude can help you start your day off positively or turn a bad day into a good day,  I decided to share some quotes on gratitude.

5 Powerful Quotes on Gratitude

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings-Willam Arthur Ward


Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and create a vision for tomorrow-Melody Beattie


It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment-Naomi Williams


Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance-Eckhart Tolle

Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things-Robert Brault

I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

If you enjoyed these quotes, you may like Gratitude Jar, Gratitude makes life fulfilling.

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5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself


There are times when we carefully watch what we say to others.   When we know a friend is going through a time of feeling bad.  We sit there and take our sweet time trying to get the right words together to uplift a friend but we give ourselves maybe a minute if that much and speak negative words to ourselves when we are feeling bad. We find ourselves caring deeply for their feelings but what about the times that we deny ourselves the same treatment.

You may wonder what times?  You know, the times when you find yourself saying negative words to yourself about what you did not finish yet, or maybe the time when you felt that you were not good enough, or even the time when you thought you could have done a task in a better way.  This list can go on and on.  It would be beneficial to give yourself the same treatment that you would give a friend in these type of situations.

Be careful of how you are talking to yourself because you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

Have you notice how we are some of the worst critics when it comes to ourselves? I mean we can really beat ourselves up with negative words.  I mean, there have been times in life that if there was a boxing match going on between me and myself (the worst critic with negative words), myself will beat me with a knock out in the 1st round.  Thank God for growth.

Remember the post I wrote about 6 Ways To Say No To Self Negative Talk.  Negative words will keep you stuck.  They do not help the situation.  They just take us further into the world of negativity and breaks us down.  Breaks us down into a fragile state.  We began doubting other abilities that we may have.  It is difficult to get anything done positive in a fragile state.

One of the best steps you can do for yourself is Be Kind To Yourself.  This is not the only step in life that will yield positivity but it is right up there in the list of Big Ones. Is it always easy to be kind to yourself?  Not at first if you are your worst critic, but as you participate in daily activities that are geared toward loving on yourself, it will become easy to develop kindness toward yourself. With kindness, you speak positive words into your mind.  You build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.  You show compassionate to yourself.

When you be kind to yourself, you open the door to produce greatness because you began to think good about yourself.  This leads to believing in yourself and achieving goals in life.  This helps you allow peace into your life.  I encourage you to take some time and choose your words carefully because when you talk to yourself, you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

I have created a list of  5 Simple Ways That Are Geared Toward Me Loving On Myself Which Lead To Me Being Kind To Myself that have been helpful to me 

  1. Forgive yourself– No one is perfect.
  2. Magnify your strengths– We all have strengths and positive characteristics.  Thinking about what I am good at is always empowering.
  3. Participate in self-care techniques-This helps reduce the impact of daily stressors and allow peace in my life.  Pampering also makes me feel good about myself.
  4. Make some positive affirmations that you can review daily-Speak positive words into my mind help remove negative words from my though process.
  5. Make a list of ways to encourage yourself-By creating this list, I have a built-in cheerleader

When I participate in these steps and love on myself, I am equipping my mind with positivity which makes it easy for me to be kind to myself.  It is easy for me to say kind words to myself like I would a friend because the kindness is already there for me to tap into.   If you would like to read further about self-care techniques, I shared some techniques in my post about 5 Tips To Reduce Stress.  About a couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post on 5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself that you may find helpful.

I know you may have a busy schedule but I hope this post give you a moment to think about the importance of being kind to yourself.

Update:  I have created a printable just for you.

Free printable 5 tips to be kind to yourself

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How do you be kind to yourself?  If  you have some tips on how to be kind to yourself,  I would love for you to share them.

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5 Quotes That May Inspire And Empower You

I usually participate in Linda’s One Liner Wednesday but I missed this week.   Since I still wanted to share some motivational or inspiring quotes, I decided to make this post.  There are a lot of positive quotes that I love but I will share 5 for this post.

5 Quotes That May Inspire Or Empower You

I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become-Oprah Winfrey



Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed-Dale Carnegie


Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think-Benjamin Disraeli


I am two of the most powerful words; for what you put after them shapes your reality-Bevan Lee

Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character; reap a destiny-Chinese Proverb


Happy Weekend!  I hope these quotes have provided you some inspiration.

If you like this post, you may enjoy 5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself, Conquering the Mountain, & The Power of Kind Words.


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Family Fun When The Lights Are Out

Family Fun When The Lights Are Out

A couple of weeks ago we had some bad weather which cause our lights  (electricity) to go out.  We usually watch movies on that day.  Now this should have been an unpleasant moment since electronics are very popular in our household but it wasn’t.  It was a great and pleasant moment for our household.  So, instead of movie time.   Oh, yeah, electronics are not allowed during the movie time.  This was actually suggested by my kids but I wondered how they were going to be without electronics for the whole day without any warning or planning of it.  They did just fine.   We had an impromptu family game day.

We played a game with circle a world puzzle including who could finish the puzzles the fastest.   Also, we played Monopoly and Uno (my kids added so many extras to this game). Oh, there was another game they made up about memory with the Uno but I didn’t play.  I watched them play.  It was so much fun watching them trying to keep their body language from telling off on themselves when they got the bad card.   We had laughs on top of laughs throughout the whole day.

So, we lost lights (electricity) before the daylight hit that morning.  Instead of sitting and waiting for them to come back on, we got out the games.  We played games from that morning until the evening.  We finally got lights again around late that evening.  And we ended our day with Netflix. See, We still got our movie in too.

We do family activities together but the impromptu game day due to lack of electronics made me think about how comfortable we have become with technology in the home.   My kids have electronics and I stay on some sort of electronic especially since the start of this blog.  Who am I kidding? Even before this blog, I was on the internet for something.  I believe sometimes we get so comfortable with technology until we forget about all of the things that can be done without it.

Any activities that include good interactions with my family are always great to me.  As I explained in a previous post about movie time, this too was like a beautiful beat to my favorite song.


I didn’t win not one time but it was a fun day. I take that back, I did win.  I won the biggest prize.  I won a spot in my kids’ heart that will be there forever by participating in memory making moments that will last a life time and I still got to enjoy another beautiful beat to one of my favorite songs.

Like I mentioned in another post, my kids are growing up and I cherish every moment I can with them.  I know that I will not be able to get these times back. The most precious things in life cannot be bought.  I enjoy nice things but the most precious things to me are not things but are the times spent with my family.

Even though the weather wasn’t good and we were without lights (electricity) and our planned event was interrupted, we enjoyed ourselves, beautiful music played, and the sun came out and shine in the Barney’s household.

Impromptu times that make some wonderful memories.   Don’t you just love when that happens?  I would love feedback.

If you enjoyed this post, you may like It’s Movie Time! A Beautiful Beat To My Favorite Song.

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3 Ways To Add Happiness To Life

3 Ways To Add Happiness To  Life


Happiness involves the daily acts of choices you make in life and how you view life’s situation.  You see, happiness is a choice.  It took me a while to really grasp this but I am so glad that I did.  It is not a destination or an end result.  Even though I am a work in progress, I now understand that happiness derives from the choices that I choose to make daily and how I choose to view what is going on.  I pick my happiness.  I do not have to wait on it.  I can find some happiness in everyday.

The other day as I was looking out the window at the sun shining and enjoying a cup of coffee, I got a glimpse of the quote above sitting on my desk and I was so grateful for realizing the happiness in my life.  So I began to think about what I participate in that gives me happiness or what helps me allow room or space to be happy, receive happiness, and embrace happiness. I began to think of what I participate in that allows room in my mind and life for happiness.  I believe that we have to be open to receiving happiness.  I believe that we have to believe that we deserve happiness.

I thought about the 3 things listed below

1. Being Grateful

Taking inventory of the good things in life is always needed.  It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking of all of the wrong that is going on but this just destroys the chance of having happiness in your life.  By taking inventory of the good things or moments, the mind gets to relax and it sends positive energy throughout the body that can be beneficial physically also.  Positive energy makes it easier to find happiness.

2.  Being content.  

Life moves so fast until the idea of contentment can become lost.  There is nothing wrong with making goals or working on completing them but don’t forget to enjoy the moment of life where you are at now.  I used to not enjoy some moments in life because I was not where I wanted to be in life yet.  I was waiting until a certain thing or event happen to be happy.  I was not content with life and missed enjoying beautiful moments that were happening at that present time.  I didn’t enjoy the progression.  After each accomplishment, I always had the next accomplishment to tackle in my mind.  In life’s journey, there may be stormy days but not always because the sun always come out.  Take time to enjoy the sun.

 Another part of contentment can involve comparison.  Stay focus on your journey not anyone’s else.  Your journey was design just for you.  Trust that everything is happening when it should.  It can be easy to fall into the trap of comparison but this just destroys the chance of having happiness in your life.  No two journeys of life are the same.  You don’t want to miss your progression looking at someone’s else journey.

3.  Being Alone 

Don’t give all of yourself to others.  Leave some time to be alone.  By having some alone time, you give yourself room to provide some self care.   Self care is just as important as caring for others.  I know this can sometimes be difficult but it is so necessary.  By eliminating self care, the chance of having happiness in your life is very slim.  Take some alone time for yourself.  Enjoy the moments of doing nothing.  Let your mind and body take a break.  The rejuvenation that comes with having some alone time is great.  It makes it easier to be open to happiness.

Have you noticed how you can help the same person over and over again but he or she does not change or improve.  The change will not come until he or she is ready.  I think this can be applied to happiness.  You have to be open to the idea that you can be happy and that you deserve to be happy.  This is when you will begin to find happiness daily in your life.

By participating in all three above:

It allows room for happiness to come in.   It allows  you to be open to happiness.  It reduces the chances of negativity in your life. 

I really don’t think that there is a big ole magic trick or some secret that only a select few in life have access to add or find happiness.  It is simply the daily acts of the choices we make in life and how we choose to view life’s situation.  We decide what our happiness will be.  We have a choice.

What behaviors do you participate in that help bring happiness in your life?

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Yay! It’s My One year Blogiversary

Happy One Year Blogiversary to

Happy One Year Blogiversary


This is a smoothie that I made about 50 weeks ago during the beginning of my blog journey.  I decided to showcase it for this moment.



So, I received this message on last week.  Yes, time has been flying.  First, I would like to thank everyone who has ever checked out my blog, commented, liked, or shared something from it.  I am very grateful for all of the support y’all have provided.  I hope y’all found some inspiring or encouraging words while visiting.

Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can -Arthur Ashe

The quote above really sums up my journey so far in blogging.  As I look over the progress I have made,  I am so glad that I took the leap.  I did not have a clue what I was doing when I started this blog on last year.  I am still clueless to some things but the more I do it, the more I learn and progress.  I am excited to see how this year go.   I have to give a great big ole Thank You to my husband because he believe that I could do this before I did.  He has been very supportive.   I thank God for him.

I started this blog to document my journey to a healthy and happy life and inspire others along the way.  I have been in a place in life that was not so good and seeing  inspiring/encouraging words helped me out tremendously.

Sometimes, life don’t go as planned but you do not have to be a victim of your circumstance.  You can still strive through it.  If you fall down, you can get back up.  You don’t have to lay there and let negative thoughts stomp all over you.  You deserved to be happy.  You deserved to have a happy life.

Journey to a healthy me is one year old!!!

Thanks again everyone for following along the journey!!!

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