Hey you guys,
It’s been a while since I participated in One Liner Wednesday but I always enjoyed the one liners. Here is one I found about gratitude
GRATITUDE opens the heart to all good things-unknown
There is nothing like taking time out to give yourself a pampering day. I was so excited to use a day on the weekend as an at home spa day to give my hair and skin some care. A couple of weeks ago I picked up some face masks at Sally’s and I have been hooked on them ever since. If you caught my post last month, you read about my self care kit. I make sure to get some self care moments in through the week. They are important and needed but been able to dedicate a whole day to focus on just me is priceless. And I am all for participating in ways to reduce stress.
I mean, it can become so easy to get caught up in caring for everyone else until you forget about yourself. You may even find yourself feeling a little guilty. I get it, I really do. But don’t, tell yourself that you need it and they (your people) need you to take time out for yourself too. And in all honestly, what does neglecting yourself do for you and your people in the long run? Think long and deep about it. You can insert your answer here.
Let’s get to my at home spa day. Oh wait, let me try to set the scene for you. I had my favorite candles lit and some soft & relaxing music playing and I was in some comfy clothes. Let’s not forget my favorite cup of deliciousness, Chai Tea Latte in one of my beautiful tumblers. Depending on what I am needing will determined the kind of at home spa day I will create. Usually I give myself a spa night through the week that focus on relieving stress and relaxing but I am working on strengthening my hair and taking better care of my skin so I decided to focus on hair and skin care for this spa day.
Protein treatments help to strengthened hair. I gave my hair a light protein treatment. This process does take a while due to the other steps it entails. I shared a while back on my process. You can check it out here if you like. The process is still mostly the same but the products may be different. The face mask is supposed to deep clean and purify pores and I could truly use that as I keep oil in my hair and you know how that goes sometimes.
I washed my hair and applied the product for the hair treatment and I use my favorite facial cleanser to clean my face and then I put on the avocado and oatmeal face mask. I love the way this mask made my skin feel afterwards. I will be picking up the regular size for this mask and use it in my weekly routine. Next, I am going to try the Dead Sea Minerals Anti-Stress by Freemans as it sounds like it would fit right in with at home spa day, with the key word been “anti-stress.”
As the hair treatment and face mask were doing their work, I didn’t have a care in the world. I was zoned out in my music feeling relaxed and free. Then, I realized that I was taking care of my mind, body, and soul. I peacefully got a good nap in and enjoyed the rest of day off stress free.
Do you give yourself an at home spa day?
Hey loves, have you been enjoying the first week of the new year? I have been working on tasks to help me with some goals that I started working on the end of the last year. Last year, I attended a training in self care and it was mentioned how important it is to create a list of self care activities to have at any given time. As I was looking back on last year, I realized that I participated in self care activities a lot.
I picked up a pretty basket from Target and was trying to figure out what to do with it and decided to use it to store my goodies I use for self care and created a self care kit. I can imagine self care kits have been around a long time and I find them to be great tools as you are been proactive in maintaining your health.
Say, you had a long day at work and you are exhausted but you get home and continue working because you have duties to do at home and crashed. You wake up the next morning to do it again. You continue to do this for weeks or months at a time. You find yourself tired all the time and sometimes not wanting to do the tasks that you set for yourself.
Your body and mind has not had time to relax and break from everyday wear and tear. This is when self care plays a major role in our lives. When you take time out to care for yourself, you are giving your body and mind a rest and a moment to relax. A moment to calm down from all of the hustle and bustle. After that rest and relaxation, you feel good overall, you feel rejuvenated, you feel some peace, etc.
I know after I give myself some self care I am able to develop solutions to certain things better. Every one self care kit may be different but the goal is the same. I picked objects that I like and that will help me relax.
I started Adult coloring last year. It is such as relaxing and peaceful time for me and it allows me to be creative and to decide how I want my picture to be. I am in full control and I can color out of the line if I want to. Ok, that is a great feeling sometimes especially when life can seem the opposite.
How do I even began about journaling? I love love it. I write down thoughts, ideas, happy moments, sad moments, dreams, goals, etc. It takes a lot to get me upset but when I do some of the things that come to my mind do not need to be said out loud but I can write them down to get them out. After that, I am able to focus on why those words or thoughts were my reaction, think about the situation, and respond or react appropriately. As I mentioned in a post a while back, the pen can write what you can not say.
I love this mug, “Don’t Kill My Vibe.” When I saw it in the store, I was like I won’t let you lol. I don’t know what I was referring to exactly, maybe the infamous “negative self talk” or people who try to kill your dreams. I think it will be a great reminder though during my coffee and tea for self care moments.
Coffee & Tea
I just love sitting in my favorite chair and sipping on some coffee or tea depending on which one I am in mood for.
Essential oils, candle, & favorite lotion
Aromatherapy is the business. It makes for a great spa day/night. I love scented candles & essential oil diffusers. Their scents make the atmosphere of the room so relaxing and smell of essential oils may help relieve stress. I use them for the morning and evening. I love the zone I get in when I use them in the morning when I am writing down my grateful moments. I also love the zone they put me in when I use them in the evening with a long bath. I light my candle, have some relaxing music playing, some epsom salts (not pictured), and essential oils in my bath and just relax.
I use my phone or iPad (not pictured). Music is therapeutic to me because some songs can describe how I am feeling and also how I want to feel.
Sometimes, the objects in my kit may change but for the most part, these are what I use now.
Do you have a self care kit?
Hey loves, it’s that time to say good-bye to this year and welcome in the new year. As I look back over the months, I find myself with many words and then there are times when I find myself with no words. My word for the year was “transform” and boy has there been change going on in me. When I selected that word, I had no idea the work that would come behind it. I had moments of tears of sadness and joy. I had to learn how to let go of the old and position myself to prepare for the new. In order to do that, I had to grasp the understanding that the old was no longer going to get me to the next level of life. This can be scary because it is unfamiliar territory. You become a student during transforming.
If I was to say that was HARD, that would be an understatement. I participated in a lot of personal development. We play so many roles in life. When I am not playing the role of wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee, etc., who am I? When I tell you that getting to know yourself can be something else, it can, well to me it was. Then, there were times when I got frustrated in the process because I was so used to, well not use to, but comfortable in my comfort zone. I have been getting uncomfortable for the past 3 years. Each time, it has been scary but rewarding.
On top of that, my health wanted to act up which cause me to slow down. Thank God so much for my husband, children, and sister. They have been Amazeballs. I love exercising but I have been limited to what I can do and that has been a struggle itself because I also use it as one of the ways I release stress. Even though we are nearing the end of the year, I have found peace (this was difficult) with my current workout regimen. I am ready for 2017 to crush goals.
I will say that I had a break through moment when I finally decided to watch, “War Room.” Well, I read the book first and it was just what I needed to start the break through and the movie just finish it for me. The movie has been out for a while but I always said I would watch it later. But this particular moment in my life, I made it my business to find it. I like to think that I watched it at the right time because when I say my prayer life has been on 100, more like a 1000. I have to send praises up for this. Every since the beginning of this blog, I have been working on my relationship with God and it has been progressing and I thanked him. God has continue to let me know that he got me.
As for my blog, I would like to thank everyone who take time out to read my thoughts. I am grateful for every message I received encouraging me to continue on and how you have been inspired through my little corner on the internet. There has been some transforming on the blog also. I have changed the name to “Life Through Fancy Eyes.” I am going to pull this from the mission statement. My aunt always say that there is a bright side in a situation, we just have to look for it. Perspective is important regarding life. It is so easy to get caught up in the struggles until we can’t view life with our best eyes.
In order to view life with our best eyes (fancy eyes I like to call it), we have to give ourselves breaks from what is going on. Sometimes we can be so stress until it becomes difficult to operate in a proper manner. I want this to be a place where you can come and get a pleasant distraction, take a break, & regroup if you have to. With topics ranging from healthy living, fitness, hair care, self-care, a dab of beauty & fashion with sprinkles of inspiration.
Honestly, I wouldn’t say that I have completed transforming but for the most part, I have put a dent in this goal. I see progress in my faith, health, family, work, & blog. I am blessed because my good days really did outweigh the bad ones. My husband and I celebrated 20 years of marriage this year. I thanked God for my relationship with my kids. I have been enjoying time with myself. I have been enjoying more life moments. I have been taking time out to just breathe and smell the roses. I have been living not just existing. In conclusion, I feel good about how this year has turn out and may do a word of the year next year. All of these goals with words of the year build on one another.
Saying good bye to 2016 and looking forward to all 2017 has to offer. Did you have a word for the year for 2016?
It is always great to start the new year off on a word that would be the focus point for your goals. It has taken me some time to come up with my word. I finally decided on “transform” towards the end of February. At first I was caught between choosing transform or intentional. I was going back and forth about which word to choose.
Then, it hit me. To be able to participate in transforming effectively, I will have to be intentionally with my actions. These words work hand in hand. What do I want to transform? Every since I began this blog, my thinking process has change. It has cause me to think about things in a certain way. I have grown deeper in my relationship with God and I have learned to take time out and enjoy not only the big moments and things but also the little ones.
Sometimes, we find ourselves constantly moving until we miss out on things that will give us a moment to literally feel the breathing that we do. I mean we know we breathe daily but do we really take time out to realize the breath that we are blessed to take. The moments that we let slip by because we were so busy constantly moving.
My thinking process may have improve last year but I am still a work in progress. So, I want to work on transforming my thinking process more to take time out to enjoy life moments. I want to continue to transform my health, my family life, & my business. I have to constantly work on myself because just because I know some coping skills or mechanisms to use in times of struggle doesn’t mean that I don’t get distracted sometimes with negative thoughts or situations. I do, and this is why I constantly work on myself to keep myself in check.
I also do not want to be just existing in life. I feel that in order to not exist, we must set goals and accomplished them. One goal should be to enjoy life moments. I think we leave this out from our goal list but it just as important and it can be easily neglected or look over while we are playing our roles in life. Even if we don’t accomplished all of our goals, we will have a roadmap to go by in life and will not just be existing.
I am looking forward to the growth that will come with my goals this year.
Have you found a word to help you focus on your goals this year?
3 Simple Ways To Regain Focus
As I was looking through my notification, 100th post popped up. It took a minute for me to process that I have actually hit this milestone. When I began blogging, I didn’t have a clue as to actually what blogging was all about. I had heard of it but didn’t know what it really entail. All I knew is that I wanted to create a platform that would encourage others.
My husband has been very supportive. I had doubts about blogging but he was and still is my number one encourager/cheerleader along with my sister. They consistently encourage and motivate me. If I were to say that this journey has been easy, I would be lying but it has been rewarding. It has cause me to grow as a person in all areas of my life. I have met some wonderful people through blogging and for that I am grateful.
With all that being said, sometimes you can lose focus when working on accomplishing goals. Life happens or you are bombarded with additional duties in life. Since I blog about inspiring, motivation, and encouragement, I have been learning how to stay in check with my inner self. In a perfect world, focus would be on point all the time but this is not a perfect world.
Lately, I recognized that I had lost focus. I don’t know exactly the moment it happened but it did. I found myself in a blank zone standing still without direction. I didn’t know what to do next. I didn’t know what to write next. I just didn’t know.
So, I had to make some steps toward getting myself back on track. I had to regain my focus. I used these 3 ways to help me regain focus.
1. Turn off the noise.
2. Feed my mind the nutrients that it needs.
3. Identify my Why.
I had to find a time to just turn off the noise of life and give myself space to clear my mind so I can feed it what it was lacking. I began to set aside time for only step 2. I realized that the most important thing that I was running low on was positive, inspiring, & uplifting words in my mind. I started thinking about the body and how we are told to feed our body nutrients, positive and uplifting words are like nutrients for the mind.
If we don’t give our mind the necessary nutrients, we are not able to function at the best level. I had to get a refill because I was near empty. Who am I kidding? I was on “E.” I went to my bible, back to blog posts that I had written, other blogs, inspiring books, & encouraging quotes/words.
As I was getting my fill up, I began to feel renewed and rejuvenated. This gave me a clear and embracing mind to identify and receive my “Why”. Why am I doing what I am doing? What am I trying to accomplish for me and my family?
After I finished the steps to regain focus, I was ready to regroup and get back on track. I also looked back at the notification of the 100th post and I got excited!!
It doesn’t matter if we lose focus as long as we can identify it, regain it, and keep it moving.
How do you regain focus?
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.-Thomas Edison
This is a part of Linda’ One Liner Wednesday
This was originally posted on here 10/11/14. I decided to republish it because I enjoyed it and it is a helpful reminder to not let excuses deter us
Stumbling blocks have the potential to cause regression towards a goal. Excuses are stumbling blocks that lead to failure or not even trying. Phrases such as “I can’t” or “I don’t have time” should be toss to the bottom of the ocean without the ability to come back up when it comes to the betterment of your life. Those phrases should be replace with I can or I will make time. Anybody that has accomplished any goals in life did not give energy to excuses. Excuses cause you to be stagnant. Excuses are designed to demolish your hopes and dreams.
Excuses are tools that cause you to participate in self-defeat. Who knew that you had the power to create damaging tools? Who knew that you had the power to destroy your hopes and dreams? I often hear individuals mention stumbling blocks from others but what about the stumbling blocks call excuses that they create for themselves.
When I looked back over my life and reflect on goals that I have accomplished, I noticed that I use some valuable tools throughout the process but excuses were not a part of them. There have been times when I said, I can’t or I just don’t have time but I had to push those negative thoughts (excuses) out of my mind. When I let excuses controlled me, I didn’t attempt to try to accomplished goals. I didn’t even really make goals. I mean if I want something to change in my life, I had to look at excuses for what they were (stumbling blocks). So, I had to invest time in myself and put in the work. I had to believe in myself. When it comes to the betterment of your life, it is imperative to make time. Your life is valuable. You are important, you are special, & you deserve it.
It would be beneficial to sit down and create solutions instead of drooling in excuses. Excuses will take control over your life. You may not even recognize yourself. You may compare your life to others. You may express how you do not have as much time as someone else to get things done (that is an excuse sneaking in it). It is not about anyone else time but about how you can work with the time that you have. It’s about learning how to make your time beneficial for you. It may be easier to blame others instead of understanding the responsibility you have in the situation. You have the power to take control back over your life. Here is a process that I use to help eliminate excuses and move forward. It may help whether it be work or personal related.
1. Take a look at the situation and write down a desired outcome. Write down the goals you want to accomplish.
2. Conduct research regarding solutions concerning the situation. Invest time in yourself. Ask for help if needed.
3. Develop a list with solutions including the steps to go along with them.
4. Create a schedule and time frame to complete the steps in the solution.
5. Make time and follow through the steps. Sometimes you may have to adjust this process. That is alright. You are a work in progress. Never give up on yourself. Make sure to celebrate your progression.
6. Goal accomplished. You took control back over your life. You eliminated excuses by focusing on solutions. Celebrate. You did it!
So, the next time that inner voice says, I can’t, you tell it I can and I will. I am important, I am worth it, and I deserve it!
By spending time on creating and progressing towards the solution, you will not have any time to entertain excuses. You will have eliminated excuses out of your mindset by feeding the mind positive information regarding solutions. It is important for you to remember to invest in yourself. By participating in the process of creating and progressing toward solutions, you gain some positive attributes. Three are positive self-esteem, confidence, and hope. These positive attributes will spill into all aspects of life. You will find yourself having the courage to tackle and achieved more goals.
How do you eliminate or tackle excuses? I would love feedback.
Let’s stay connected. I would be honored if you check out my Facebook page and like it https://www.facebook.com/JcCeeWatkinsBarney
This has been shared on Link It To Me.
If you enjoyed this post, you may like 6 Ways To Say No To Negative Self Talk.
This is something to think about
We tend to live up to our expectations-Earl Nightingale
This is a part of Linda’s One Liner Wednesday