Do you ever find yourself in an unmotivated state? You know what you need to do but you don’t feel the desire to do it. You feel like it’s taking forever to get to the outcome that you have picture your head. You almost find yourself losing hope that you will ever get there. The good news is that it will not last forever and is only temporary. I want you to take a moment to stop and think about what would happen if you let those temporary moments dictate your journey. Words that come to mind are regrets, defeated, stagnation, depression, etc. For myself, I don’t want to give temporary moments that type of power over my journey.
I have felt like this a time or two. Wait, multiply that by at least 10 lol and I am quite sure I will feel it again in the future. Does this mean that I am giving in to the thought that I am going be unmotivated? No, well, maybe yes. Stay with me though, it means that I have acknowledged it and will be able to help myself when it happens again. You see, in life when working on goals, preparation is BIG. Are you able to prepare for everything that happens? Probably not, but that shouldn’t stop you from making preparation for what you can.
I can remember when I first started creating photos for my blog. It seems like it took forever for me to get the lighting better and I am not where I want to be but I am proud of my progress. There were so many frustrating unmotivated moments. I think about it now and can laugh but I promise you it wasn’t funny back then. What if I let those temporary moments tell me that I couldn’t do it? I wouldn’t be able to exercise my creative side or even know that part existed anymore.
My feelings for those moments were real but not valid. The power to make them valid is within me. Your motivation can be like your driver license. As long as they are valid, you are licensed to drive but as soon as they expire you are not. It is real that you are a driver but it is not valid because of your expired license.
Until you go to the DMW and get it renewed, it cannot be use to show you are licensed to drive. That is how I think about the unmotivated moments. They are real but I have the power to make them valid and I can choose not to. I can choose to renew my motivation and make it valid. Of course I need help along the way.
Now let’s get to some ways I get through the unmotivated moments. Of course, you may have different ways and that is perfectly ok. I said 5 but I added a bonus one.
- Get some fresh air and go for a walk
- Go and read a magazine, blog, book, etc that has nothing to do with what you are working on
- Take a nap
- Love on myself
- Binge watch a show on Netflix (Don’t judge me lol)
All of these ways help me to step back, relax, and reset. I may do one or three depending on the severity of the unmotivated moments. These cause me to step back from the frustration and give myself moments to breathe. After these moments, I am able to think about my why and regroup if needed. My motivation is recover and I am ready to continue on.
What ways do you use to get out of the unmotivated moments?
We are in the 2nd month of 2017. How has the new year been going for you so far? I would say it has been going good for me. Last month I discussed self care and shared my self care kit. Reading can be a form of self care so I have been upping my reading game. 3 books completed in the month of January. Hooray!! To be honest, I didn’t think that I could finished 3 reads in a month but it happen. I started with one and work my way to the third one. I would say the content of the books played a significant part in the completion of this goal. Here are the 3 that made the cut for my January’s reads.
Have you ever felt rejected or unloved? Lysa uses her life experiences to help you see how rejection had impacted her as a person and how it intertwined in the beliefs and thoughts she had about herself. You are able to take the journey with her and along the way you find yourself relating through your own life experiences. She shows you how she finds healing through wisdom from biblical scriptures and helps you see how you can find your healing too. Throughout the book, you will find yourself stopping, digging, and self reflecting. Through this process, you are able to find your road to healing. I will say to have a journal or notebook ready. I used mine a lot. I enjoyed Lysa’s writing and this is a book that I will read again.
My sister got this book for me and I am happy that she did. Do you find yourself stuck or stagnant? This is a good book to read for MOTIVATION and ENCOURAGEMENT. I had to put them in all caps because Steve does a wonderful job motivating & encouraging the reader to go after their goals in life, whether it be career, entrepreneurship, or relationship wise. Jump can be applied to many situations. I mean, you will want to take the jump after reading. Through his life experiences and faith in God, he shows how jumping, taking a chance, & not giving up got him where he is today. He doesn’t just share the not so good moments when he started out but he shares the not so good moments after he achieved success and how he made it through them. When I started reading it, I couldn’t put it down. Each chapter kept me wanting more. This is a must read.
Grace Not Perfection
Do you find yourself constantly in the hustle and bustle routine? Do you ever slow down, simplify things, and enjoy life moments? Do you just keep going going and going? Emily shares through some of her life experiences how it is important to slow down and simplify things. She shares how it takes giving yourself grace to be okay with doing this and utilizing the word “No.” I especially enjoyed the chapter on giving your person or spouse grace also. She also shares very helpful organization and planning tips. Overall, I enjoyed the book and love that there were pages filled with worksheets. This book gave me the opportunity to look at my life and see how important it is to give myself grace. I did realized that I do not give myself enough grace and I need to work on that. And for that I am grateful.
I didn’t want to say too much about each book but I have been inspired by all of them. Did you read any books in January?
Hey loves, have you been enjoying the first week of the new year? I have been working on tasks to help me with some goals that I started working on the end of the last year. Last year, I attended a training in self care and it was mentioned how important it is to create a list of self care activities to have at any given time. As I was looking back on last year, I realized that I participated in self care activities a lot.
I picked up a pretty basket from Target and was trying to figure out what to do with it and decided to use it to store my goodies I use for self care and created a self care kit. I can imagine self care kits have been around a long time and I find them to be great tools as you are been proactive in maintaining your health.
Say, you had a long day at work and you are exhausted but you get home and continue working because you have duties to do at home and crashed. You wake up the next morning to do it again. You continue to do this for weeks or months at a time. You find yourself tired all the time and sometimes not wanting to do the tasks that you set for yourself.
Your body and mind has not had time to relax and break from everyday wear and tear. This is when self care plays a major role in our lives. When you take time out to care for yourself, you are giving your body and mind a rest and a moment to relax. A moment to calm down from all of the hustle and bustle. After that rest and relaxation, you feel good overall, you feel rejuvenated, you feel some peace, etc.
I know after I give myself some self care I am able to develop solutions to certain things better. Every one self care kit may be different but the goal is the same. I picked objects that I like and that will help me relax.
I started Adult coloring last year. It is such as relaxing and peaceful time for me and it allows me to be creative and to decide how I want my picture to be. I am in full control and I can color out of the line if I want to. Ok, that is a great feeling sometimes especially when life can seem the opposite.
How do I even began about journaling? I love love it. I write down thoughts, ideas, happy moments, sad moments, dreams, goals, etc. It takes a lot to get me upset but when I do some of the things that come to my mind do not need to be said out loud but I can write them down to get them out. After that, I am able to focus on why those words or thoughts were my reaction, think about the situation, and respond or react appropriately. As I mentioned in a post a while back, the pen can write what you can not say.
I love this mug, “Don’t Kill My Vibe.” When I saw it in the store, I was like I won’t let you lol. I don’t know what I was referring to exactly, maybe the infamous “negative self talk” or people who try to kill your dreams. I think it will be a great reminder though during my coffee and tea for self care moments.
Coffee & Tea
I just love sitting in my favorite chair and sipping on some coffee or tea depending on which one I am in mood for.
Essential oils, candle, & favorite lotion
Aromatherapy is the business. It makes for a great spa day/night. I love scented candles & essential oil diffusers. Their scents make the atmosphere of the room so relaxing and smell of essential oils may help relieve stress. I use them for the morning and evening. I love the zone I get in when I use them in the morning when I am writing down my grateful moments. I also love the zone they put me in when I use them in the evening with a long bath. I light my candle, have some relaxing music playing, some epsom salts (not pictured), and essential oils in my bath and just relax.
I use my phone or iPad (not pictured). Music is therapeutic to me because some songs can describe how I am feeling and also how I want to feel.
Sometimes, the objects in my kit may change but for the most part, these are what I use now.
Do you have a self care kit?
Hey loves, it’s that time to say good-bye to this year and welcome in the new year. As I look back over the months, I find myself with many words and then there are times when I find myself with no words. My word for the year was “transform” and boy has there been change going on in me. When I selected that word, I had no idea the work that would come behind it. I had moments of tears of sadness and joy. I had to learn how to let go of the old and position myself to prepare for the new. In order to do that, I had to grasp the understanding that the old was no longer going to get me to the next level of life. This can be scary because it is unfamiliar territory. You become a student during transforming.
If I was to say that was HARD, that would be an understatement. I participated in a lot of personal development. We play so many roles in life. When I am not playing the role of wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee, etc., who am I? When I tell you that getting to know yourself can be something else, it can, well to me it was. Then, there were times when I got frustrated in the process because I was so used to, well not use to, but comfortable in my comfort zone. I have been getting uncomfortable for the past 3 years. Each time, it has been scary but rewarding.
On top of that, my health wanted to act up which cause me to slow down. Thank God so much for my husband, children, and sister. They have been Amazeballs. I love exercising but I have been limited to what I can do and that has been a struggle itself because I also use it as one of the ways I release stress. Even though we are nearing the end of the year, I have found peace (this was difficult) with my current workout regimen. I am ready for 2017 to crush goals.
I will say that I had a break through moment when I finally decided to watch, “War Room.” Well, I read the book first and it was just what I needed to start the break through and the movie just finish it for me. The movie has been out for a while but I always said I would watch it later. But this particular moment in my life, I made it my business to find it. I like to think that I watched it at the right time because when I say my prayer life has been on 100, more like a 1000. I have to send praises up for this. Every since the beginning of this blog, I have been working on my relationship with God and it has been progressing and I thanked him. God has continue to let me know that he got me.
As for my blog, I would like to thank everyone who take time out to read my thoughts. I am grateful for every message I received encouraging me to continue on and how you have been inspired through my little corner on the internet. There has been some transforming on the blog also. I have changed the name to “Life Through Fancy Eyes.” I am going to pull this from the mission statement. My aunt always say that there is a bright side in a situation, we just have to look for it. Perspective is important regarding life. It is so easy to get caught up in the struggles until we can’t view life with our best eyes.
In order to view life with our best eyes (fancy eyes I like to call it), we have to give ourselves breaks from what is going on. Sometimes we can be so stress until it becomes difficult to operate in a proper manner. I want this to be a place where you can come and get a pleasant distraction, take a break, & regroup if you have to. With topics ranging from healthy living, fitness, hair care, self-care, a dab of beauty & fashion with sprinkles of inspiration.
Honestly, I wouldn’t say that I have completed transforming but for the most part, I have put a dent in this goal. I see progress in my faith, health, family, work, & blog. I am blessed because my good days really did outweigh the bad ones. My husband and I celebrated 20 years of marriage this year. I thanked God for my relationship with my kids. I have been enjoying time with myself. I have been enjoying more life moments. I have been taking time out to just breathe and smell the roses. I have been living not just existing. In conclusion, I feel good about how this year has turn out and may do a word of the year next year. All of these goals with words of the year build on one another.
Saying good bye to 2016 and looking forward to all 2017 has to offer. Did you have a word for the year for 2016?
I have been hearing the saying lately “Your new life is going to cost you your old one” a lot. I remember wanting a change for my life a couple of years ago. A change that included getting closer with Jehovah. This change has been going on every since. It has been a blessing but I have had to change the way I think and do things (ongoing process).
This has not been easy. Just let me say this, old habits can be a headache to break, especially when you thought that you had it all figure out and thought you knew what was best. Ha, I have to laugh at myself for thinking that. The other day I was browsing on my husband’s blog and one of his posts described the process of your new life is going to cost you your old one.
It seems am going in circles to get to my path in life…Reasons unknown or maybe just to loose the unnecessary while gaining the necessary….
GROWING INTO GROWTH
When I’m putting a puzzle together….I pick up pieces….Just to put down pieces…Am I confused or maybe it’s just to ge the right pieces to put the puzzle together correctly….
GROWING INTO GROWTH
Yesterday I failed heavily…
Today I failed lightly…. Am I a failure or am I learning how to succeed for tomorrow
My interpretation of what my husband wrote includes understanding that you have to drop things or thinking processes from the old life and it is a journey because it will take some time to get it out of your system , so it feels like you going in circles but you’re really not, you are just loosing the unnecessary and gaining the necessary. It seems like it is taking you forever to finished the puzzle but you are doing away with the old and tapping into the new by going through the pieces of puzzle.
Through it all, it seems like you are failing because you are so use to the old you, old ways, old thoughts, old everything but you’re really not. See, the old you is not going down without a fight and you have to tap into your inner strength and keep in mind that your new life is for the better and fight for it.
My change included getting closer with Jehovah. When I started seeking him, I became aware of my shortcomings and began surrendering to his guidance (ongoing process). I say ongoing because I am still working on this. Honestly, I don’t think that there is an ending to surrendering to his guidance because I need him. Seeking him has cause me to activate Faith, Hope, and Love. I mean really really activate them.
Your change may not be like mine but if it is to help improve your life, I believe my husband words can still be applied to help you see that the process is not easy but it can be rewarding if you stick it out and make it through.
As I look over at this beautiful decor sign “hope” while I get ready in the morning, it triggers the thoughts of thinking positive. I picked the “HOPE” sign up at Marshalls a few months ago and decided the best place to put it was in the bathroom. You may wonder why? Well, because that is the first place I visit in the morning. As I am looking in the mirror getting ready I can’t help but to see it. Life, or should I say situations in life, has a way of taking our ability to have hope away. It may not be all the time but sometimes things or events can happened and we lose hope. I don’t want to be in the state of mind thinking that there is no reason to have hope.
Because despite it all, having hope can help through everyday life struggles. Why? Remember the situation or event that you thought was going to be the worst and it seemed like you couldn’t see how you were going to make it through, look back on it and see how you made it through it. It may not have been how you want it to but you got through it.
I know the desired outcome that we want for certain situations do not manifest but that does not mean that outcome will be for situations to come. I don’t want a couple situations to let me give up hope because living in a hopeless state is unhealthy and it causes me to miss the time or appreciate the time when I did or will get the desired outcome.
Throughout life, we learn new ways to cope and deal with situations and events. It is like we have a maintenance kit composed of tools we have acquired along this journey of life to deal with different moments attached to us that we just have to remember that it is there and use it. Sometimes, we don’t give ourselves enough credit.
So that time that was difficult and seemed hopeless and you made it through, what coping skill or helping tool did you pick up from that and added to your maintenance kit?
It is always great to start the new year off on a word that would be the focus point for your goals. It has taken me some time to come up with my word. I finally decided on “transform” towards the end of February. At first I was caught between choosing transform or intentional. I was going back and forth about which word to choose.
Then, it hit me. To be able to participate in transforming effectively, I will have to be intentionally with my actions. These words work hand in hand. What do I want to transform? Every since I began this blog, my thinking process has change. It has cause me to think about things in a certain way. I have grown deeper in my relationship with God and I have learned to take time out and enjoy not only the big moments and things but also the little ones.
Sometimes, we find ourselves constantly moving until we miss out on things that will give us a moment to literally feel the breathing that we do. I mean we know we breathe daily but do we really take time out to realize the breath that we are blessed to take. The moments that we let slip by because we were so busy constantly moving.
My thinking process may have improve last year but I am still a work in progress. So, I want to work on transforming my thinking process more to take time out to enjoy life moments. I want to continue to transform my health, my family life, & my business. I have to constantly work on myself because just because I know some coping skills or mechanisms to use in times of struggle doesn’t mean that I don’t get distracted sometimes with negative thoughts or situations. I do, and this is why I constantly work on myself to keep myself in check.
I also do not want to be just existing in life. I feel that in order to not exist, we must set goals and accomplished them. One goal should be to enjoy life moments. I think we leave this out from our goal list but it just as important and it can be easily neglected or look over while we are playing our roles in life. Even if we don’t accomplished all of our goals, we will have a roadmap to go by in life and will not just be existing.
I am looking forward to the growth that will come with my goals this year.
Have you found a word to help you focus on your goals this year?
3 Simple Ways To Regain Focus
As I was looking through my notification, 100th post popped up. It took a minute for me to process that I have actually hit this milestone. When I began blogging, I didn’t have a clue as to actually what blogging was all about. I had heard of it but didn’t know what it really entail. All I knew is that I wanted to create a platform that would encourage others.
My husband has been very supportive. I had doubts about blogging but he was and still is my number one encourager/cheerleader along with my sister. They consistently encourage and motivate me. If I were to say that this journey has been easy, I would be lying but it has been rewarding. It has cause me to grow as a person in all areas of my life. I have met some wonderful people through blogging and for that I am grateful.
With all that being said, sometimes you can lose focus when working on accomplishing goals. Life happens or you are bombarded with additional duties in life. Since I blog about inspiring, motivation, and encouragement, I have been learning how to stay in check with my inner self. In a perfect world, focus would be on point all the time but this is not a perfect world.
Lately, I recognized that I had lost focus. I don’t know exactly the moment it happened but it did. I found myself in a blank zone standing still without direction. I didn’t know what to do next. I didn’t know what to write next. I just didn’t know.
So, I had to make some steps toward getting myself back on track. I had to regain my focus. I used these 3 ways to help me regain focus.
1. Turn off the noise.
2. Feed my mind the nutrients that it needs.
3. Identify my Why.
I had to find a time to just turn off the noise of life and give myself space to clear my mind so I can feed it what it was lacking. I began to set aside time for only step 2. I realized that the most important thing that I was running low on was positive, inspiring, & uplifting words in my mind. I started thinking about the body and how we are told to feed our body nutrients, positive and uplifting words are like nutrients for the mind.
If we don’t give our mind the necessary nutrients, we are not able to function at the best level. I had to get a refill because I was near empty. Who am I kidding? I was on “E.” I went to my bible, back to blog posts that I had written, other blogs, inspiring books, & encouraging quotes/words.
As I was getting my fill up, I began to feel renewed and rejuvenated. This gave me a clear and embracing mind to identify and receive my “Why”. Why am I doing what I am doing? What am I trying to accomplish for me and my family?
After I finished the steps to regain focus, I was ready to regroup and get back on track. I also looked back at the notification of the 100th post and I got excited!!
It doesn’t matter if we lose focus as long as we can identify it, regain it, and keep it moving.
How do you regain focus?
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.-Thomas Edison
This is a part of Linda’ One Liner Wednesday