Review of 2016 Word, Transform

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Hey loves, it’s that time to say good-bye to this year and welcome in the new year. As I look back over the months, I find myself with many words and then there are times when I find myself with no words.  My word for the year was “transform” and boy has there been change going on in me.  When I selected that word, I had no idea the work that would come behind it.  I had moments of tears of sadness and joy.  I had to learn how to let go of the old and position myself to prepare for the new.  In order to do that, I had to grasp the understanding that the old was no longer going to get me to the next level of life. This can be scary because it is unfamiliar territory.  You become a student during transforming.

If I was to say that was HARD, that would be an understatement.  I participated in a lot of personal development. We play so many roles in life. When I am not playing the role of wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee, etc., who am I? When I tell you that getting to know yourself can be something else, it can, well to me it was. Then, there were times when I got frustrated in the process because I was so used to, well not use to, but comfortable in my comfort zone.  I have been getting uncomfortable for the past 3 years. Each time, it has been scary but rewarding.

On top of that, my health wanted to act up which cause me to slow down.  Thank God so much for my husband, children, and sister. They have been Amazeballs.  I love exercising but I have been limited to what I can do and that has been a struggle itself because I also use it as one of the ways I release stress.  Even though we are nearing the end of the year, I have found peace (this was difficult) with my current workout regimen.  I am ready for 2017 to crush goals.

I will say that I had a break through moment when I finally decided to watch, “War Room.” Well, I read the book first and it was just what I needed to start the break through and the movie just finish it for me.  The movie has been out for a while but I always said I would watch it later.  But this particular moment in my life, I made it my business to find it.  I like to think that I watched it at the right time because when I say my prayer life has been on 100, more like a 1000.  I have to send praises up for this.   Every since the beginning of this blog, I have been working on my relationship with God and it has been progressing and I thanked him. God has continue to let me know that he got me.

As for my blog, I would like to thank everyone who take time out to read my thoughts.  I am grateful for every message I received encouraging me to continue on and how you have been inspired through my little corner on the internet.  There has been some transforming on the blog also. I have changed the name to “Life Through Fancy Eyes.” I am going to pull this from the mission statement.  My aunt always say that there is a bright side in a situation, we just have to look for it.  Perspective is important regarding life. It is so easy to get caught up in the struggles until we can’t view life with our best eyes.

In order to view life with our best eyes (fancy eyes I like to call it), we have to give ourselves breaks from what is going on.  Sometimes we can be so stress until it becomes difficult to operate in a proper manner.  I want this to be a place where you can come and get a pleasant distraction, take a break, & regroup if you have to.  With topics ranging from healthy living, fitness, hair care, self-care, a dab of beauty & fashion with sprinkles of inspiration.

Honestly, I wouldn’t say that I have completed transforming but for the most part, I have put a dent in this goal.  I see progress in my faith, health, family, work, & blog.  I am blessed because my good days really did outweigh the bad ones.  My husband and I celebrated 20 years of marriage this year.  I thanked God for my relationship with my kids. I have been enjoying time with myself.  I have been enjoying more life moments.  I have been taking time out to just breathe and smell the roses.  I have been living not just existing.  In conclusion, I feel good about how this year has turn out and may do a word of the year next year.  All of these goals with words of the year build on one another.

Saying good bye to 2016 and looking forward to all 2017 has to offer. Did you have a word for the year for 2016?

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6 Steps To Eliminate Excuses

This was originally posted on here 10/11/14.  I decided to republish it because I enjoyed it and it is a helpful reminder to not let excuses deter us

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Stumbling blocks have the potential to cause regression towards a goal.   Excuses are stumbling blocks that lead to failure or not even trying.  Phrases such as “I can’t” or “I don’t have time” should be toss to the bottom of the ocean without the ability to come back up when it comes to the betterment of your life.  Those phrases should be replace with I can or I will make time.  Anybody that has accomplished any goals in life did not give energy to excuses.    Excuses cause you to be stagnant.  Excuses are designed to demolish your hopes and dreams.

Excuses are tools that cause you to participate in self-defeat.  Who knew that you had the power to create damaging tools? Who knew that you  had the power to destroy your hopes and dreams?  I often hear individuals mention stumbling blocks from others but what about the stumbling blocks call excuses that they create for themselves.

When I looked back over my life and reflect on goals that I have accomplished, I noticed that I use some valuable tools  throughout the process but excuses were not a part of them.  There have been times when I said, I can’t or I just don’t have time but I had to push those negative thoughts (excuses) out of my mind.  When I let excuses controlled me, I didn’t attempt to try to accomplished goals.  I didn’t even really make goals.  I mean if I want something to change in my life,  I had to look at excuses for what they were (stumbling blocks).  So, I had to invest time in myself and put in the work.  I had to believe in myself.  When it comes to the betterment of your life, it is imperative to make time.  Your life is valuable.  You are important, you are special, & you deserve it.

It would be beneficial to sit down and create solutions instead of drooling in excuses. Excuses will take control over your life.  You may not even recognize yourself.  You may compare your life to others.  You may express how  you do not have as much time as someone else to get things done (that is an excuse sneaking in it).  It is not about anyone else time but about how you can work with the time that you have.  It’s about learning how to make your time beneficial for you.  It may be easier to blame others instead of understanding the responsibility you  have in the situation.  You have the power to take control back over your life.  Here is a process that I use to help eliminate excuses and move forward.  It may help whether it be work or personal related.

1.  Take a look at the situation and write down a desired outcome.  Write down the goals you want to accomplish.

2.  Conduct research regarding solutions concerning the situation. Invest time in yourself.  Ask for help if needed.

3.  Develop a list with solutions including the steps to go along with them.

4.  Create a schedule and time frame to complete the steps in the solution.

5.  Make time and follow through the steps. Sometimes you may have to adjust this process. That is alright.  You are a work in progress.  Never give up on yourself.  Make sure to celebrate your progression.

6.  Goal accomplished. You took control back over your life. You eliminated excuses by focusing on solutions. Celebrate. You did it!

So, the next time that inner voice says, I can’t, you tell it I can and I will.  I am important, I am worth it, and I deserve it!

By spending time on creating and progressing towards the solution, you will not have any time to entertain excuses.  You will have eliminated excuses out of your mindset by feeding the mind positive information regarding solutions.  It is important for you to remember to invest in yourself.  By participating in the process of creating and progressing toward solutions, you gain some positive attributes.  Three are positive self-esteem, confidence,  and hope.  These positive attributes will spill into all aspects of life.  You will find yourself having the courage to tackle and achieved more goals.

How do you eliminate or tackle excuses?  I would love feedback.

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5 Powerful Quotes on Gratitude

I love reading quotes.  They can make you laugh as well as uplift you.  They can help you to see the good and greatness in your own life.  They can be inspiring, encouraging, empowering, and motivating.  They put the focus on what you can do to make your life better or peaceful.  Since participation  in gratitude can help you start your day off positively or turn a bad day into a good day,  I decided to share some quotes on gratitude.

5 Powerful Quotes on Gratitude

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings-Willam Arthur Ward

 

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and create a vision for tomorrow-Melody Beattie

 

It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment-Naomi Williams

 

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance-Eckhart Tolle


Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things-Robert Brault

I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

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5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

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There are times when we carefully watch what we say to others.   When we know a friend is going through a time of feeling bad.  We sit there and take our sweet time trying to get the right words together to uplift a friend but we give ourselves maybe a minute if that much and speak negative words to ourselves when we are feeling bad. We find ourselves caring deeply for their feelings but what about the times that we deny ourselves the same treatment.

You may wonder what times?  You know, the times when you find yourself saying negative words to yourself about what you did not finish yet, or maybe the time when you felt that you were not good enough, or even the time when you thought you could have done a task in a better way.  This list can go on and on.  It would be beneficial to give yourself the same treatment that you would give a friend in these type of situations.

Be careful of how you are talking to yourself because you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

Have you notice how we are some of the worst critics when it comes to ourselves? I mean we can really beat ourselves up with negative words.  I mean, there have been times in life that if there was a boxing match going on between me and myself (the worst critic with negative words), myself will beat me with a knock out in the 1st round.  Thank God for growth.

Remember the post I wrote about 6 Ways To Say No To Self Negative Talk.  Negative words will keep you stuck.  They do not help the situation.  They just take us further into the world of negativity and breaks us down.  Breaks us down into a fragile state.  We began doubting other abilities that we may have.  It is difficult to get anything done positive in a fragile state.

One of the best steps you can do for yourself is Be Kind To Yourself.  This is not the only step in life that will yield positivity but it is right up there in the list of Big Ones. Is it always easy to be kind to yourself?  Not at first if you are your worst critic, but as you participate in daily activities that are geared toward loving on yourself, it will become easy to develop kindness toward yourself. With kindness, you speak positive words into your mind.  You build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.  You show compassionate to yourself.

When you be kind to yourself, you open the door to produce greatness because you began to think good about yourself.  This leads to believing in yourself and achieving goals in life.  This helps you allow peace into your life.  I encourage you to take some time and choose your words carefully because when you talk to yourself, you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

I have created a list of  5 Simple Ways That Are Geared Toward Me Loving On Myself Which Lead To Me Being Kind To Myself that have been helpful to me 

  1. Forgive yourself– No one is perfect.
  2. Magnify your strengths– We all have strengths and positive characteristics.  Thinking about what I am good at is always empowering.
  3. Participate in self-care techniques-This helps reduce the impact of daily stressors and allow peace in my life.  Pampering also makes me feel good about myself.
  4. Make some positive affirmations that you can review daily-Speak positive words into my mind help remove negative words from my though process.
  5. Make a list of ways to encourage yourself-By creating this list, I have a built-in cheerleader

When I participate in these steps and love on myself, I am equipping my mind with positivity which makes it easy for me to be kind to myself.  It is easy for me to say kind words to myself like I would a friend because the kindness is already there for me to tap into.   If you would like to read further about self-care techniques, I shared some techniques in my post about 5 Tips To Reduce Stress.  About a couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post on 5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself that you may find helpful.

I know you may have a busy schedule but I hope this post give you a moment to think about the importance of being kind to yourself.

Update:  I have created a printable just for you.

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How do you be kind to yourself?  If  you have some tips on how to be kind to yourself,  I would love for you to share them.

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5 Quotes That May Inspire And Empower You

I usually participate in Linda’s One Liner Wednesday but I missed this week.   Since I still wanted to share some motivational or inspiring quotes, I decided to make this post.  There are a lot of positive quotes that I love but I will share 5 for this post.

5 Quotes That May Inspire Or Empower You

I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become-Oprah Winfrey

 

 

Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed-Dale Carnegie

 

Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think-Benjamin Disraeli

 

I am two of the most powerful words; for what you put after them shapes your reality-Bevan Lee


Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character; reap a destiny-Chinese Proverb

 

Happy Weekend!  I hope these quotes have provided you some inspiration.

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5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself

5 Simple Ways to Encourage Yourself
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When you are working on goals in your life, sometimes you need to encourage or motivate yourself.  I discussed in a previous post about motivating and encouraging yourself.  In order to find encouragement when needed, it may be helpful to have a list of ways in place that you can pull from.  I know getting encouragement from others is great and it is good to have support like that but sometimes you need a little more or sometimes you may not have that support.  Or better yet, sometimes you may need both.

Picture this.  You have created 8 steps that will help you accomplish your recent goal.  You have made it through 4 steps but you get on step 5 and you get tired, things may not be happening fast enough for you (so guilty of this), lose your focus, or lose your way.  Actually, I have been guilty of all of them before.  There are obstacles coming up from everywhere.  Your tank of energy is on E.  You feeling down like you can’t make it through step 5 and making it to step 8 is not looking for very promising in the future.

There is no one there to tell you to push on.  There is no one there to tell you that you only have 3 steps left.  There is no one there letting you know how far you have made it.  So, where will you get the energy/strength and encouragement from to push on through step 5 and make it to step 8?

If you have a list of ways in place where you can encourage yourself, you can get your push from it.  You can get that cheerleader screaming “You almost there” and “You only got a little ways to go” from it.

I will share my list.   I have complied a list of 5 ways I encourage myself.

1.  Read my bible (I love Proverbs)  and one on one with God.

2.  Encourage someone else.

3.  Seek and identify how far I have made it and remember the benefits of accomplishing the goal.

4.  Read inspirational quotes and words.

5.   Go for a walk.

These seem so simple to do but they can be so easy to forget.  While writing this post, I was like, I do these at some point or another.  What is the big deal about writing them down in a list form?  They are not secrets that have been hiding away.  They are just common activities that I participate in.

But there is a big deal,

The big deal is to have something in place for when the times come when I will need that boost of encouragement when I am alone.  The big deal is to remind me that I have what it takes to get through the rough patch.

I have already prepared myself for this time if it should come.  You know that time.  That time when the negative voices want to meet up and have their say in your head. Trying to cloud your thoughts and make you feel like you just can’t do it. Cheering you on to quit.  Yeah, that time right there.

Instead of going through the woe it’s me phrase and possibly end up quitting,  I can go back to the list that I created and remind myself that I got this. Go through the ways on the list and push through.  There are a lot of benefits that I gain from this list.  I will discussed just a few.  I will not only gain encouragement  but I will  gain strength also.  I always gain strength from my times with God.   I even have a way on the list to stop and relax /clear my mind for a moment if I have to by going for a walk.  There is also a way on the list to help someone  while helping myself.  It is not all about me.

True be told, if you think back on it, the times that you have accomplished a goal, you have had to encourage yourself at one point or another along the way.

Your list may be totally different from mine, but the end result is the same.  Being able to encourage ourselves is the goal.

Your list does not have to look like mine.  Your list may be totally different from mine but the end result is the same.  Encouraging ourselves is the ultimate goal.   I know you may have heard this before and it may even seem common to you.  But have you noticed how things we categorized as common and positive seemed to slide through the cracks of life during some of the most difficult time.  What we thought was so common was easily forgotten during those times.

By creating a list, we have something to refer back to when we seem alone and our motivation has reduce significantly or left.  The list may help give us the push we need to get through step 5.  The list  may help reduce the number of times we end up listening to the negative voices or even talking ourselves out of completing what we started.  I know I have talked myself out of doing things before that could have been beneficial to me.

By establishing a list of ways to encourage ourselves, we are empowering ourselves.  The list is another tool to get you through step 5 and make it on to the finish line.   Tools set you up for success.

What are some ways you participate in to encourage yourself?

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